out from the darkness...

Well dearest readers, 2016 has taken a rather unexpected turn. With the events of the past couple of months almost driving me to suicide, coupled with the fact that Mercury is currently in retrograde until 25th Jan (astrology shit, means life normally goes tits up), it would have been the obvious conclusion that life may have continued on a downward spiral for me for the foreseeable. Instead, and I have no idea why, but life has got fucking boss!!!!!

My mojo returned a few days after new year. I woke up one morning feeling like I could take on the world. My first victory was with that god damn emergency plumbing service. I called them, I fumed, and was given £150quid compensation for my inconvenience. I'm not sure that fully compensates for my having to stay at my mothers to get warm but nonetheless I was happy to accept.

Daddy dearest also stumped up the cash for a brand new boiler and 6 new radiators ensuring toasty warmth forever more.

My second victory was breaking the back of my uni prep for next semester. I was overjoyed to discover I got my choices and have been dutifully swotting up on all my reading. The absolute best part is in September when I start my law degree, I have got my student finance all worked out, and it turns out with the student loan plus the 3, yes count them 3 bursary's I am eligible for.... I... WON'T.... HAVE..... TO..... WORK..... lets take a moment to let that sink in....oh god it's just bloody marvellous. In fact, I have some shares maturing in June....  I could actually probably afford to sack it off TODAY and be alright. I'm not getting too crazy though. I have decided that if I continue to work (which I will be able to as the law department tell me the degree is only 8-12hours a week in uni time) I will be able to save up and graduate with a decent amount of dollar behind me. I'll be cutting down to 16hours though. Decided to see which way the wind blows. I'll carry on working, see how it goes. But the idea of not HAVING to work is pretty bloody liberating. I am aware there will be lots of UNI work involved but I am a single working parent. Juggling comes second nature to me.

Even work has got fucking boss! I went back last week after having some time off over the Christmas period....and my birthday...a month, I had a month off but it was for recuperation purposes alright. Anyway.... it was grand! I work with some of the funniest, kindest people I've ever met and I am so grateful to them all for being absolute belters. Endless laughter and wind ups. Just what you need in the workplace!

I got a photo in the post off Prince Harry today. The best thing I have ever received through the post. I wrote to him for a laugh a week ago and told him I thought his hair was awesome and I got this note back today thanking me for my kind words and wishing me the best for 2016 with a photo of him looking all rugged. He clearly wants my arse and who can blame him.

Oh and I got laid. Not by my ex boyfriend either (WHO by the way I have hardly thought about the last few days. And when I tell you he has not been off my mind in 4 years I can assure you this is a major fucking turning point). I won't go too much into it but cut a long story short I got taken for dinner to the Vincent, wined and dined, had a few old fashioned's in Berry and Rye and then back to A Hard Day's Night hotel for what can only be described as porn star sex. I experienced my very first ever multiple orgasm through actual sex which has never ever happened to me before in my whole life and I actually had assumed was mythical until now. This dude has some magical fucking skills. I don't know what's happened recently. When I split with Ash it took me ages to build myself up to sleeping with someone else again. I was suffering from a severe case of penis fear. Now however, it appears I am totally cured and this slag is back on form and back on the cock. Epic. Not that I am going to go around bouncing on every shlong on offer you understand. While it is true when one is blessed with a 32FF chest and a thigh gap there is no shortage of shaggage on offer, I have decided to pace myself. Quite happy with the current one for the moment, but I am not getting birded up again. Uni comes first, then my son (sorry lad but mama's got to get the degree to get us the good life, you can tie your own shoes, mwah), then my health/fitness/yoga - which I have signed up to do a 30 day yoga detox thing which I am most looking forward to as I think  I could really do with toning down the crazy - and then any spare time after that will be filled wall to wall with cock.

Absolutely bloody marvellous plan.

So that's all from me. Stay tuned as no doubt everything will go tits up again, but for now I am one happy camper. Everything is going great and not a bellend in sight. Excellent.

Life Hack: Do no wrong, but take no shit. And everything will be wonderful xx

New Years blog!

First blog of the new year!

My New Years resolutions are as follows:

1. No more comparing yourself to other people. You are running your own race.

2. Exercise. Soley for the mental health benefits. At least 3 times a week. Preferably SOMETHING every day

3. Yoga. It's relaxing and it will help with the mind

4. Drink more water

5. Speak more French 

6. Do a good deed every day

7. Take more care of skin Inc moisturising after every shower

8. Read more books

9. Be thankful and positive every single morning 

10. Put 110percent into uni

Naturally Iv done fuck all of any of them so far but if I WAS to stick to them they would be fucking good resolutions.

Iv been having a very stressful time recently. Obviously the ex boyfriend is still weighing heavily on my mind.... Still in love.... Still know we can never be together again... General emo angst. We wished each other happy New Years. He seems to be doing well and I'm happy about that... Erm... Yeah...

In other mundane news my boiler has now broken leaving me freezing and hot waterless for days. 3 blokes tried to fix it so far. Yesterday I had murder with the plumbing company on the phone over what was going on, apparently they are calling me again tomorrow, anyway I was fuming when I got off the phone to them and so there could not have been a worse moment for me to receive this screenshot:

Right now backstory to this remember I said I was seeing a lad from who then cheated on me with another girl i know that people call the yeti? Then he begged me back and I told him to get to fuck and then he basically shacked up with her? Right well during his begging trying to get me back phase he told me and his mates this bird he shagged was fat and ugly and he'd made a terrible mistake and he wanted to die and bla bla bla.

Well one of his mates decided to ask the question seeing as now he's all shacked up with the bird and must be making a song and dance all over the Internet about how happy they are (clear sign of bullshit as we all know but anyway) and he replies that.

Now me, furious at the plumbing company and in turmoil over the

Love of my life see's this and just the very idea that this irrelevant skinny balding little prick thinks he's anywhere on my fucking radar and would be trying to get to him... Well I thought I'm just In the mood for you ya fucking peasant so I decided to unblock him on facebook and send him this:

Er excuse me bellend! If I wanted to try and get to you id do it my fucking self! If you think I'm sitting here still trying to get at you you are sorely mistaken! I grant you I was fucking pissed off for a good week and a half but now I and indeed every other fucker thinks you are a total joke shop! I have to say I applaud your efforts to change the narrative of this into a love story! But everyone knows that you think she's fat and ugly and she knows you're a liar and a cheat who's head is evidentially turned VERY fucking easily 😂 so with that in mind a love story seems a bit FUCKING UNLIKELY DOESNT IT YOU ABSOLUTE WEAPON! Of course everyone could all be wrong, this could be a beautiful relationship..... Haaaaaaa!!!!

The very fact you answered with anything other than " no I didn't, I'm totally into this plus size" confirms it! I'd hazard a guess you are all shacked up in her place rent free so you don't have to go home and would rather stick with the shitness than be on your own. If she gets pregnant I will never stop laughing!! If I wanted to get to you I would, but when it came down to it I simply didn't give enough of a shit to be arsed with the hassle! So yes just wanted to clear that up! No one is trying to get to you, no one needs to! You have fucked yourself up all on your little own! PS sometimes people send me pornographic sketches of you and her shagging that they have drawn when they are bored...... it's grim 😘

Obviously he blocked me immediately and probably didn't even read it but just knowing id pissed him off was enough to make me laugh!

I really couldn't give a fuck what the bellend does but I know and his mates know that he did in fact tell everyone he thinks that bird is fat and ugly so he can try and back track all he wants but he will always be the lad that fucked up and got stuck with the munter and the more he tries to make out otherwise the funnier it is. Tit.

New dude is currently skiing. I love that. Skiing is totally fucking civilised. I haven't been skiing since I was a kid but I definitely feel like I should be a person that skis.

What else oh yes There's been a big family kick off which has come to a

head today which is so ridiculous I can't even begin to go into it but it's just another thing clawing for attention in my headspace which I really don't need right now.

On a positive note I've just received all my modules for the next semester at uni and I cannot wait to get stuck in. I feel completely focused on what I have to achieve and I swear to god I am going to smash the shit out of this and then I'm going to become a shit hot lawyer. All these trivial little fucktards will be a distant memory. Bow down bitches, you are in the presence of greatness 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

The law off attraction goes tits up

I am a firm believer in the law of attraction and if you focus on something hard enough it manifests itself. Iv found this to be most effective when I am at my most emotional, like the universe is more in tune with my signals or some shit.

Christmas was great, quiet but great, saw the family and ate myself into oblivion. The news was dominated by the terrible floods that have been going on and I found myself feeling deeply sorry for everyone involved and wondering what it would be like if we got flooded. Toyed with the idea of buying a dinghy just in case I had to sail to the shops or something.

I came home from my mums yesterday and started my new year sort out. Blitzed the baby's room and made space for all his new toys. Then today I went in and discovered that his radiator had got a hole in it and his floor was an inch deep with water.

I manifested myself a fucking flood.

Can you believe this shit? I actually laughed at the irony. So I phoned my dad who was away at a family gathering I hadn't been invited to (another story), phoned the baby's dad who was out meeting fucking Everton players. I phoned my home emergency cover people who were very sympathetic and said they would send someone out FUCKING TOMORROW. Phoned my plumber who informed me he wasn't working today and even if I could get a plumber out it would cost a fortune as it's Christmas. And then I phoned united utilities who wouldn't even answer the phone as they are busy with the FUCKING FLOODS.

Then I cried 

Then I text my ex boyfriend. 

He called me. And It felt so fucking good to hear his voice at this time of despair. He made me laugh. And then He spoke about new stuff he has in his life that I didn't know about which felt like a dagger to the heart. I miss him every day. I KNOW I need to shut this down and I'm wondering if my heightened emotional state is actually being caused by him rather than eased. Just like a pill. Instead of making me better you are making me ill. Seriously it's like being an addict. You know it's bad but the slightest knock and you are right back on the bad stuff craving another hit.

I KNOW ITS RIDICULOUS YOU DONT HAVE TO TELL ME THIS

I just really am fucking in love with the prick and I'm not sure I will ever not be in love with him.

Anyway back to the flood

I can't turn the water off because I have no stop cock in my house. I found what I thought was the stop cock but it turns out I had in fact turned off the gas which explains why it didn't stop the water. Buy your own house they said! Itl be great they said! Fuck this shit I'm selling up and renting. You know I just don't feel like enough of a grown up to deal with this. Life requires skills I simply do not have.

I have plugged the hole with some stuff and have stuck a load of industrial tape over the whole thing which has reduced the gushing to a small droplet situation. I have resigned myself to the fact I am going to be up all night monitoring the situation until the "EMERGENCY" plumber comes tomorrow. Also my heating is making a weird noise which I think may be because I turned the gas off. Ah yes, I just checked and the pilot light was out. Which it would be. As I turned off the fucking gas. MORON!!!

Seriously why me?!!! And why am I such a fucking moron?!!

Apparently I can turn the water off at the mains but Iv looked at it and it needs some sort of tool which I don't have because I'm a girl.

I am fully damsel in distress right now. When sinead Oconnor was having that melt down the other week, that's how I feel right now! Fully mental! Life needs to back off!!!

When this mini drama is over I am going to sort my shit out.

The ex has got to go. I thought I could repurpose him into some sort of I don't know friend situation but no, it's too hard and I just want to rip his clothes off and fuck the living day lights out of him. Bad man equals best sex of my life. What a shitter. You can not be friends with someone you have been in love with. Or still are in love with. 

I realised I think he's the only person Iv ever loved. I think he's my mr big. Why's my mr big got to be such a big prick. Sort your shit out immediately!!

Christmas fuck buddy has been Christmas fucked off too. I had a series of 4 middle of the night phone calls like 5 nights in a row over Xmas. And 2 texts saying "I love you".

No

I am cultivating someone brand spanking new. Well he was on the back burner last summer but now Iv brought him back to the boil. This one has potential. He's a proper actual grown up man with his own company and a hot body and a vroomy car. And who's idea of a date involves cocktails and mood lighting. I deserve mood fucking lighting!!!!!! The last date I went on involved bowling and a Maccies on the way home. I mean seriously, what the fuck is that?

New Years resolution. Sort my shit out. No more "going nowhere" guys. I need rescuing here, not yet another anchor around my neck. The next one will need to be university educated with a higher tax bracket salary and own abode and means of transportation. I am not taking in any more strays.

Right, that's it from flood watch. Soggy and not in the good way. I'm going to try and use the law of attraction to attract some decent shit into my life. It clearly fucking works

Merry Christmas ya filthy animals 

Xxx

Down the rabbit hole

The plan was simple. Don't. Shag. Him.

What could possibly go wrong...

We were in contact daily. Every single day I'd get a text without fail. We'd chat, about nothing in particular. Vague suggestions about maybe meeting up were thrown about by him and valiantly avoided by me. I was being strong.

I was also however crying every day. Depression had slowly clawed its way back around me and now I was trapped underneath the cloud. I had felt it creeping on for a month and then one day I woke up and realised I was crippled. After 18months of building myself back up I was back on the floor. As much as I tried to fight it the force was far too great and here I was again. And as if by magic the universe aligned which meant we would be in the exact same place at the exact same time.

I arrived at rock bottom on a Tuesday. A familiar territory, having spent a lot of time here last year, but this time it was different. More intense. I felt like I was drunk most of the time and to make matters worse I didn't have the luxury of being able to wallow and stagnate as I had Christmas shopping to do. numerous uni deadlines to hit and work to go to. I typed up my last assignment crying with every word. 2000 sobbed words. It will be interesting to see the marks I get for this module as it was completed during a total breakdown. I get mitigating circumstances as I have a letter from my doctor but i weirdly wanted to complete the module with no help. Was being a bit of a bellend in that respect really but anyway it's done now and what will be will be.

I was weak. It was like a magnet pulling me in. I was intoxicated by the taste of his skin. His scent, his touch. It was as if no time had gone by at all. I was powerless. It was agony. It was ecstasy.

This man broke my heart. This man broke my soul. I was tortured by the memories. I have concluded the main problem here is that I know this man is probably the only man on earth who truly knows me. He understands my chaotic mind as I understand his. It's not common knowledge but we are both ADHD, although his a lot more severe than mine. 2 troubled souls with limited control. He knows every inch of my body and know every inch of his. Every freckle, every muscle, every single bit. It felt safe. It felt dangerous. It felt wrong. It felt perfect. The intensity of it all was a force greater than I could fight. I fell down the rabbit hole.

The Tuesday breakdown began in a shambles. My thoughts were racing  and I couldn't control them- I craved peace. I had thought of nothing but Him 24/7 for weeks. In fact if I am truly honest with myself, there hasn't been a day that's gone by in years that I haven't thought of him. But he was ALL I thought about now. And I was in what was now unbearable pain. Exquisite pain. But pain none the less. My friends must have noticed my irratic mood and i presume a few frantic phonecalls were made because no less than 17 of them contacted me to talk me through the haze. Texts. Calls. 2 even came round to my house. I had not told them what I had been up to as I was ashamed. I was haunted by the memory of being strangled during the first major assault that got him arrested the first time. In fact that thought haunts me daily. I remember being scared but I do not remember pain. I was thinking how nice it would be if I could recreate that myself. Maybe with something nice and soft like my dressing gown belt. I reasoned I would probably just pass out and drift away. It's not that I wanted to die. Far from it. I just wanted it all to stop. I needed to get out somehow. And this was the only thing I could think of. My friends had no knowledge of what had been going on. But they all could see that something was drastically wrong. Every ounce of pain I had shielded myself from through the last couple of years with anger and defiance was now attacking me and I had no more defences left. I was exhausted from keeping up the charade of being fine. I curled up in a ball on the kitchen floor and cried.They asked me what had brought this on. And I told them things just went wrong too many times.

My army of well wishers carried me through.

The clarity came on a Sunday. I woke up feeling close to normal. I could breathe and I wasn't in pain. I think these last few weeks had to happen. The weird thing about a domestic violence break up is that it's all sort of taken out of your hands. There was the final incident, he was arrested, and then bail conditions were put in place so he wasn't allowed to contact me. It's obviously for your own safety but it's almost as if the police just come and say look right you've got to break up with him now and you don't get to discuss it or actually break up with him because we will do it for you. You my dear are fucked and can't make proper decisions so that's what's happening.

It is almost as if you are robbed of the actual break up. There's no "it's over" conversation. There's no closure. And you can mask it all you want with the anger and the moving on but it's still there like unfinished business.

I feel like this was pain I had to feel. It was a shock I had to deal with and I feel like I'm seeing things more clearly now. I'm still in love with him. But I know we can never ever be together again. And maybe that's OK to feel that way. I may never get over what happened. But I know I can survive it. And that feels empowering. It still doesn't feel quite dealt with. And maybe in a couple of years il go through the cycle again. I fucking hope not though, it's a royal pain in the arse.

The plan now is to concentrate on uni. That's my ticket out of this life. I have 3 books to read over the next month so I can lose myself in them.

I have also acquired a Christmas fuck buddy because, well, a girls got to eat. And straightforward sex with a straight forward guy is both calming and refreshing.

So yes, that's all for now. They say never look back, but I think we can all agree I never actually left in the first place. I feel like Iv taken a few steps away now. Actual steps not baby steps. It feels like I have shut the door myself now, rather than the police doing it if that makes sense.

Let's see what the next chapter of my mess of a life has in store hahaha xxx

In which I am betrayed and make a silly mistake...

It's been a while since my last blog and rather unfortunately my life has fallen spectacularly to pieces.

It's a rather disappointing turn of events especially as during the summer I was actually quite happy!

I won't go into too much of what's happened but the general jist is I was seeing a lad from work who we shall call shrimp for a few months who then cheated on me with another girl from work and I'm not one to knock body image in any way shape or form but if I tell you people call this girl "the yeti" then you get some idea of the situation.

Cue public humiliation on an epic scale. This wouldn't be half as bad if it didn't involve people I work with. And while everyone in work has made it clear they are disgusted with the yeti and the shrimp, it's still absolutely riled me.

I confronted him and he spent the whole evening coming out with all the usual shit "I'm sorry, I hate myself, it's just one mistake, I hate that Iv fucked this up bla bla bla there was even an "I love you" thrown in for good measure. Followed by threats of suicide. Spare me.

So having been sent on his merry way and told never to darken my doorway again He's now pretty much shacked up with yeti. After all that harping on to me with his I love yous. And her knowing he was with me.... I honestly can't work out which ones the bigger mug but anyway I digress from the point...

I was left to assess the situation. How am I feeling? Angry? Very. Betrayed, humiliated.. Absolutely. But heartbroken? No.

But then I realised

Actually I am heartbroken. But not about the yeti shrimp situation. It hit me full force that I am still 100percent completely in love with my ex. And completely totally still earth shatteringly heartbroken.

So what's a girl to do in this predicament? I made a monumental error dear readers. In a moment of madness caused by all the humiliation and betrayal and general rage..... I called him.

Yes

After 18months I called him.

And we are now in contact daily.

Fuck. My. Life.

So what did he say I hear you ask. Well this is where is gets hilarious. I rang my ex boyfriend out of the blue (hello from the other siiiiiiiide...and I slate Adele aswell) and said "I need to talk to you".

At first he was on the defensive as obviously you know.... Things ended with me having him criminally convicted and everything and he started asking if it was about the remaining court fine he had to pay or stuff to do with the police and I just said "no. I need to talk you. I don't want to go into detail but I need you to be at my beck and call 24/7 right now and for the foreseeable future until I feel better"

And do you know what he said?

He said ok.

Fuck. Really it would have been better if he'd have said no. Or not even answered at all. But he did. And he said he'd be there.

And now I'm back to where I was a year ago. Two years ago. Three years ago. Fuck four years ago.....

I suppose in a weird way the yeti shrimp saga has shown me that I was really in love with my ex and in a weird fucked up way that's nice to know. And now I need to deal with my heartbreak. We haven't spoken properly since we broke up 18months ago. There's so many things I want to say. But I can't. So I talk to him like nothing happened. And he tells me it's all going to be ok. 

I need to not shag him. 

There's a range of dudes asking me out and one even declaring undying love.... But they have all been placed on the back burner until I sort my shit out. Shrimp was the first person i felt anything for since my ex and he brutally betrayed me in front of everyone we work with. I live in a world where people fuck me over and think nothing of it. Therefore i have concluded it is better the devil you know.

I appreciate the ridiculousness of the current situation and clearly it is me that is the biggest mug but I feel a certain comfort from having him back in my life. Just don't shag him and it's all good.

The Recovery: One Year On

16th July.

Officially one year since the end of my relationship.

Iv been dreading this day. Past month or so iv been very conscious that it was fast approaching but now it's here....well it's been just another day really. In fact I sort of feel a lot better. All year I have been plagued by "this time last year...." thoughts. We had lots of happy times which I will cherish, and lots of bad times which I will not miss one bit. But right now I'm thinking "this time last year he was a complete and utter prick to me for the absolute last time and I did not let him get away with it.

Boss really isn't it!

Iv also been thinking today that if that wouldn't have happened, I probably wouldn't be going to uni in September. I would never have had the fight or flight response that ended up making me apply. 

I haven't used a single credit card in the last 12 months either. Iv only got myself and my son to support and no one bumming off me whilst being an ungrateful tit at the same time. If he needed stuff or asked for anything I'd have given him the world no questions asked. He used to just take though. Take without asking. Expect. And kick off if I complained. 

My son is also infinitely happier. I went to his parents evening tonight and I was so proud of all he's achieved this year. One sentence he had written made me well up. "Me and my mum make a great team". I will always know I did the right thing if only just for his sake. He's been my little superstar this year and I really don't know how I would have got through everything without him. And without my fabulous friends who remind me every single day that they are by my side.

Writing this blog this last year has been really therapeutic. I counted 17 different girls Iv met that ended their abusive relationships on the back of reading this. That's 17 people who's lives I have made a difference too. Some of them are now happy in new relationships, some of them are still single. But every last one of them is 100percent happier than this time last year. Myself included. There was a video on facebook the other day a young Irish girl who's boyfriend had given her a black eye and she'd dumped him. It went viral. Crying her eyes out she was. Exactly the same as I was last year. It reminded me of just how low I was in the beginning and made me so grateful for how far I have come

I spoke to him the other week. He's not paid half his fine so they are sending bailiffs round to get it so I said to him can't you just lend it off your mum or something because as hillarious as the thought of bailiffs breaking in and robbing his play station is, or him getting rearrested which is what would ultimately happen if the bailiffs couldn't get enough goods, realistically I would rather have the dollar.

Anyway he said he'd been having financial problems and he was going to pay as soon as he could and then he started saying he had found pictures of us and they had made him sad. Said he would never find anyone that compared to me. And that his sister was getting married and it upset him because he thought it would have been us....

And then he said something like "I have suffered every day since we split up, you made sure of that. I'm not angry at you though"

And it was at that point I got pissed off and thought for fucks sake! Where's me violin!

As if HEs the one that would be angry! Is he fuckin messin! He's been knocking girls about since the year dot, he hasn't got a pot to piss in, he's a 27 year old fucking BARMAN for christs sake and Iv got a horrible feeling he probably spends his days hungover/off his tits, waking up next to random girls he's shagged, working in some bar for minimum wage and probably riddled with the clap... Going absolutely fucking nowhere. In fact worse than nowhere... BACKWARDS!!. The life that lad could have had. I coached him through an interview for a banking job which he got offered about 2 weeks after we split up. He was getting driving lessons. What fucking moron would walk away from that to go and live in a shit hole and then sit there scratchin his head wondering why he "can't seem to catch a break" a year down the line?!!!! Il tell you why you can't catch a break.... Coz you've got no fucking common sense whatsoever and make some of THE worst decisions Iv ever seen in my life, REPEATEDLY. So I didn't make sure you suffered, you did! So if you're gonna be angry at anyone be angry at yourself, because I, sunshine am a fucking delight!

I actually despair as to what will become of him. He has a hole in his heart because he doesn't really care about anyone. And Iv got a really horrible feeling no one will ever really care about him. Except for his mum. And even she's not all that arsed from what I saw.

ANYWAY..... I digress.

Today's been sound. Not awful. Not amazing. Just a normal bog standard boring day. And tomorrow I can say this time last year was day 1. And would you just look at how far Iv come

Ps.... Do not pin a girl down, spit in her face, give her a black eye and then refuse to pay the fine! 

To shag or not to shag... Residual distress left over from the ex

Sooooooooo the opportunity for a naughty cheek fuck fest has presented itself. And dear readers I am in somewhat of a quandary.

Aside from drunken meaningless shagging (whereby confidence is obviously at an ill advised high) I have not had (sober) sex in almost a year.

Dear god

Now while I am starting to feel more and more like I should be getting back in the saddle there is one deep dark lurking dread sort of feeling that creeps in at the very thought.....

I'm pale and fat.

Ok so I'm not obese and St tropez dark can probably sort the skin tone but still....my body confidence is at an all time low and it doesn't matter how much I gym it or how fabulous my tits are I still hear my ex telling me how fat I am ringing in my ears. Sort of a residual left over gift. That keeps on giving. And you know what I'm not sure what the hell to do to ever get over that....

I'm not entirely sure if I ever will to be quite frank. And that thought pisses me the fuck off more than you could ever bloody imagine.

Truth be told I actually have 2 dead cert fuck fests there for the taking if only I could get past this phobia I see to have developed about sober naked no pants dancing. I have been making excuses to the first one fora couple of months now. Which is a shame because he is brutally hot with a bloody nice car which are both high on my tick sheet.

I think it's because I'm not sure I can really be arsed with flings right now. Iv sort of decided that unless I'm swept right off my feet I'd prefer to stick to box sets and my selection of rabbits.

Maybe I'm just not ready full stop.

Iv come so far this last 12months. I feel like iv taken all the right steps and made all the right changes and I'm now on the right road. Suppose this is just one last step il have to take. It just makes me so angry that horrible twat can still affect my life even when he's, to all intents and purposes, dead.

Il sleep on it. So far the box sets are a nose in front but it's nice to know a girl has options 

✌🏻